Dxn Code Strike I'm not suggesting you change your style of approaching women to one where the first thing out of your mouth is "Hi, I', Fred, and I like to be locked in a chastity belt". I suspect that while that will get you results, they won't be the ones you're looking for. But what you can do early on is make sure you communicate openly and honestly about your preferences. Look, I know this is hard, and before you have this kind of conversation, it's best if there's already been some physical intimacy between you.